Breaking Generational Cycles Starts Within

You feel in your gut that you want your children to experience care you didn't receive yourself as a child.

In the core of your being you want to give your children a childhood that they don't have to recover from.

These desires are strong, existential, and so deeply meaningful. Despite the sense of urgency, it can be hard to know the how of breaking cycles.

This life stage asks you to attune to your inner knowing - something you might feel disconnected from due to your own trauma. If your own thoughts and feelings were dismissed by your caregivers, it makes sense that it's hard to hear their signals.

If you didn't have a strong example of loving and unconditional care, it makes sense you might meet some road blocks while discovering your own parenting style.

If your nervous system is wired for protection, it makes sense it can be hard to access connection-based parenting styles.

Breaking generational cycles often starts with our own healing work. I help my clients heal their hearts, minds and nervous systems so they can be that steady presence for their children. Not sure where to start? Please reach out to see if I can be of help.

To get you started, please feel free to use the prompts below for your own journaling or reflection:

1. What is your relationship like with your own inner child? (I invite you to notice without judgment).

2. How could deepening your relationship with your inner child serve you in your parenting journey?

3. How does your body respond in moments of stress? Does it tighten, go numb, feel staticky?

4. What might be some benefits of intentionally connecting to your own self during the ups and downs of parenting? (Keep in mind that "small" efforts can go a long way, i.e. checking in with your breath, feeling your feet on the floor, naming your current emotions, etc.)