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Therapy for Complex Trauma
Online in California and Washington
In person in Lacey, WA
Childhood Trauma Doesn't Just Go Away
It wasn't your fault then and it isn't your fault now. Trauma sticks around until we find the right conditions to finally release it.
Beliefs That Hold You Back
You hear about a new position opening up at work. It sounds exciting and the significant pay bump would really help your family, but you question if you can handle it. Before you even apply, your brain plays you a tape of your boss letting you down and telling you you're never going to make the cut (memories of your father's voice ringing in your ears). You convince yourself it's not worth it to try, and so you stay stuck in the same old job that (in reality) you could do in your sleep.
Patterns That Derail Your Relationships
You come home feeling raw and irritable from a rejection that didn't actually take place. You find your partner on the couch with half-eaten dinner sitting on the table. You immediately snap at them for "sitting on their ass all day." You leave them on the couch and go tuck the kids into bed, alone, regretting what you said. You know your kids heard you and try to put on a calm front, feeling guilty that they have to walk on eggshells with you too.
A Body That Won't Settle
It's 10pm--time for you to start winding down, but the stress in your body seems to have multiplied out of proportion with what actually took place today. You doomscroll for two hours, too exhausted for anything else. When you finally close your eyes and wait for sleep to come, all you hear are your neverending thoughts. The next morning, you snooze your alarm clock and jump out of bed when you realize you're late for work--you feel like you're always behind, whether it's for falling asleep or getting to work.
Why Talk Therapy Hasn't Worked
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You cried on the couch for an hour and left feeling more depressed than when you came in
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When you see your mom's name on your caller ID, you get a pit in your stomach and still can't set boundaries with her, even after 5 years of talk therapy
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You therapist asks you how you "feel about that" and quite frankly, you are tired of talking about how you feel, you just want to feel different
How Brainspotting Helps
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Brainspotting does not require you to talk about the past if you don't want to
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You notice real shifts in how you feel in your daily life
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The self-critical thoughts that have cycled through your mind for years finally soften and you actually start to like yourself
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You start feeling like you have more control over your emotions and reactions and your relationships become easier to manage
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Your body shifts out of survival mode and your creativity and sense of humor rises to the surface
Childhood Trauma Can be Healed
With support, your work-life, relationships, and parenting can start to feel easier. You can feel like you are moving forward in life instead of being held back by old wounds and memories. You might start to identify as a 'cycle-breaker' who helps bring more care and kindness into the world.
You Know Your Strengths and Believe in Yourself
You have the confidence to apply for the job because you know you're going to be okay no matter what happens. You know that no one success or failure defines you. You're confident in your abilities and you know you deserve to be considered. You hit 'submit' on your application with a slight smile on your face.
Connection Comes Easier
You walk into the house after work, see the dishes on the table and when you have that familiar rise of irritation inside of you, you take a deep breath. You know your partner is just taking a 15 minute break on the couch before they hassle the kids to get into bed. You're fighting with your partner less and your kids are enjoying your newfound silliness.
You Can Finally Relax
When the tasks for the day are done, you reach for your phone but then pause. You realize that mindless scrolling doesn't actually sound appealing. You phone a friend instead to let them hype you up for sending in that job application. You fall asleep feeling tired but content. Life isn't perfect, but it's good.